Why do not we identify what we feel like, really?

Recently, there are many techniques, training, magic rituals and other conspiracy theories on "How to understand what you really want." Thank you for this progress - for centuries the person did not have a choice - well, almost was not. The son of a peasant did not have a chance to learn something other than how to plow, sow; the heir Butcher was one way - from the slaughterhouse to the bench, the son of a nobleman - a military career. He was born a girl - be patient steps and pushing, then get married and be happy until old age of 40, unless he first die of child bed fever. And so on - a rare adventurers and people unique willpower managed to get on the pirate ship, a prospector or someone else, going beyond the kind of karma. Do not get tired of singing the praises of scientific and technical progress, which almost made ​​the call all the odds. Today, we have lots of ways to go.

Want to go please - all the way open! You can even fly into space - get paralyzed invalid Stephen Hopkins flew. Of course, you need to make an effort: but you would think you them and so every day, do not apply to stand up and force myself to go to the hated job, lose there precious time of life when one would hover in zero gravity or design airplanes, explore minerals or search for treasure Third Reich. Ways to mass, there are examples of our neighbors, classmates, relatives and acquaintances, who set a goal , got what they wanted, and happy. And then there is the big question - many of us are not stupid to know what they want, what goal to set for ourselves! Otherwise I would not have been so widespread all sorts of techniques such as "Write everything - and suddenly manifest what will be your guiding light and order," "Look for the signs in life, analyze them and understand what you really need," "Take a hobby your work, and your work will bring you happiness "and so on. Many hobby and a no-no, with the exception of beer on the benches or bath with friends on Saturdays. Many are afraid to take a chance - no, not even life, and his meaningless life and the adjusted salary shallow, just to step outside of their everyday life and change your dull, does not bear a life of joy. The problem of the selection of targets invariably exist - but why? And now I want to bring a small but typical example, it would seem, it is not associated with the affected subject. Children's playground ..., the end of April, with the unexpected, almost the June heat. And what we see - most of the kids running around with their hats, jackets, sweaters, red and sweaty. Despite the fact that the thermometer shows 23, worried mother while continuing to zip up his jacket and pull the cap, "You are sick! You'll catch cold! Are not you hot? The air is still cold! You just think it's hot! "Just remember the anecdote about" Boris, go home! - Mom, I'm cold? - No, you want to eat! ". And, of course, that's it, "I'm cold - no, you want to eat "- not the end. Further more until doesh, do not get up from the table. Do not be friends with those they teach you bad. Do not wear a short skirt - you look like a whore. Do not smile, you have crooked teeth. There is nothing to be an archaeologist - is not a profession for a girl. Want to be a star like Alla Pugacheva - What do you mean, she know what a hard life! Decided to enter medical school - I did not live through your exams. What kind of profession - artist? It is better to become a dentist, they know how much you earn! The list goes on and on - surely everyone who has not "learned", which wants to actually have a child in this situation. ... Unfortunately, now they can help themselves only themselves - maybe remember how wanted to be a veterinarian. And to get a volunteer in a dog shelter. Or again begin to glue airplanes. And then to win the contest homemade aircraft - are held for promotional purposes. Or, again, to dance when I had to finish the hated economic and now dwell on the quarterly reports, hated tax collectors, who are also probably want a kid himself a fortune. And now I want to appeal to all parents , confident that they know far better - it's hot or their child, or he wants to eat. If you are motivated by love for your daze, the best thing you can do for him - is to teach him to think for themselves. And then in his life and so all went well.