What is ego?

Let us consider three things: selfishness at all, selfishness in love in particular and love (bed) self-interest as a form of selfishness in love. Propose a simple technique: first ask the all-knowing Internet, and then connect the common sense and everyday experience. And come to a final judgment. Do you agree? What is ego? Ironically, Google is not too abundant in the definition. Here, perhaps, the most common, which has roots from Mr. Freud's self-interest - is showing interest in a man to himself, characterized by a focus on their desires, instincts, his own world as a whole. Have you read? Ask yourself what this definition include a categorical negative? Nothing, right? However, continuing to search further, you can find a variety of materials in which the notion of self-interest is attributed to the negative, even anti-social coloring.

Say (hereinafter referred to in quotes - this quote), "Christian morality teaches us to care about other people, honor their parents, help the weak, and to resist tyrants ... that the highest achievement - a feat accomplished to the benefit of all mankind. We tell stories about heroes who sacrificed their lives to save others. And we are taught to feel guilty for every manifestation of selfishness. " Often, even of the opinion that selfishness destroys society and therefore must be eradicated. So there! In this case, refer to altruism as opposed to egoism: the first - well, the second - disgusting. Women's magazines are added to the color of the anti-social selfishness and more to say: Series can continue, but the point, I think, is clear: women, selfish man - self-centered, non-altruistic men, women - are altruistic. But if you look further, you can still hear something else. That "there is nothing wrong with being selfish - that is human nature itself, and to deal with it - it means to rebel against the instinct of self-preservation." That "the goal of innate natural selfishness - survival, so all of us - are selfish and out. But as wacky coincidence really want to see myself with some others. " "We find a great honor to nobility, altruism, to help those in need. We take care of their loved ones and those we love. We worry about the future of children of baby seals, for the environment and for peace throughout the world. But at the same time refuse to face the truth - in fact, we only care about themselves. “That’s it, ladies and gentlemen! Sincerely recognizing themselves selfish and acting in accordance with this person is more honest than the mock hypocrite, acting for the benefit of understanding "it should" and contrary to his ego. Here's another quote: "The more a person believes in the disinterestedness of his thoughts and actions, so it is miserable." How do you? Strong words, is not it? And here is an example of an explanatory: two different people, one - a sincere selfish, the other - affected hypocrite, give gifts to their loved ones. The first clearly understands that it is essentially a present he makes as if to himself, according to its own (read - selfish) self-interest, because he just likes to give. He is selfish, but honest. So he, in general, all the same, will cause a storm of excitement and enjoyment gift or politely indifferent to thank: my ego is something he has already satisfied! Feigned a hypocrite, being exactly the same selfish, pretends that there is no personal gain in his act is not that a present - it is only for the sake of the neighbor, for him / her and to bring to / of the storm of excitement and enjoyment. What happens if instead it gets calculated politely indifferent gratitude? Resentment? Misunderstanding? The charges? That's right, you will agree! And why not? Because mock hypocrite wants to believe in the disinterestedness of this act, by its nature being human - selfish! In conclusion - another quote: "In man there is nothing but his own selfish" I want to, 'and more clearly than he sees it, the easier and more natural to his life, the easier and more natural to his relationship with people. Selfishness - perfectly healthy sense if you stop him shy. The more hiding from it, the more it breaks out in the form of unjustified insults and attempts to manipulate people to his advantage. And the more it recognize, the more clearly you understand that this is the selfishness and makes us honor the freedom and interests of another person. Conscious rational egoism - the only path to healthy and constructive relations between people. “After completing an internet search, try to connect the common sense and everyday experience. Hand on heart, say, with whom it is easier to communicate - with someone who does, or almost never makes you claim that, as a rule, all happy , has a sustainable positive mood? Or those who chicanery, advice, opinions, teachings fills the air around your ears, who are waiting for you demonstratively emotional expressions of gratitude for the perfect them - unselfishly! - An act, and the mood is unpredictable change? With who? That's right! What you up to the fact that this is a first - a manifestation of interest in itself, the focus on their desires, instincts, in his own world as a whole? What difference does it make if the ease relations can only gain from this? Remember, the road is paved with good intentions where?