What Is The Basis Of Family Happiness?

Why do people create a family? Once accepted to say out loud that for the sake of love, and in fact many reasons that it is difficult to enumerate, for example, to correct the financial situation, to solve some issues and problems. Get married, get married, and for children, and wishing all split in half, for example, the values ​​of life.

By the way, these same values ​​and begin to divide in the first place. "Sharing" quite successfully held for the first time when the two - a man and a woman, trying hard to make nice to each other, as if standing on tiptoe. But on his toes for a long time will not stand, be sure to become a whole foot will return to its natural state.

And start a family routine. Loved one who went out of their way to meet our requirement, tired of the constant violence on their habits and views and comes back to the usual way of life for themselves.

There would have to stop, think about it, but often overshadows common sense of resentment, accusations begin to dislike, inattention and lack of understanding.

If at the outset recognize the rights of the spouse to have their own views on life, to respect its values ​​and are not to impose their own, there will be a habit to negotiate rather than dictate that family is the foundation of any relationship.

Is bound to cause a lot of pressure and strong resistance, and that means war. In the war for their positions for their superior rightness no winners, because it's the right way to dying feelings of love and respect.

But time goes on, we change, change our views. It remains only to observe and understand this change, not blaming and taking them. In the hectic life we ​​fail to see ourselves, to understand their experiences and feelings - where we really see the other person. And, blaming a loved one in some actions, lack of understanding, we compare it to the one last, as we remember and we want to see.

And what about the present? It can not be less than perfect, than the past, it is real, and we have to live it to them, rather than memories. Family is built every day, it is developing, growing, improving. And the foundation of it is needed, as in any other building, the foundation of respect for the feelings of another person, the attention to him and his needs, understanding of his actions and desires.

Women like men today, they are able to make decisions and implement them. But the constant throwing between his masculinity and desire to be weak, to feel cared about themselves, between the desire to rely on a man to share the responsibility and have the habit to rely only on itself, lead to the extremes. A woman becomes, or "iron lady", or diluted in a life partner, both of which tend to cause mental discomfort.

It is difficult to seek a middle ground - every woman is their own. But it is important to understand that the responsibility for your life does not have to produce their own hands, do not shift it at anyone, even if you want to be so helpless.