What is love egotistic?

Previous article convincingly proved that selfishness in vain at the household level, stained exclusively in black. All of us are selfish by nature, but the minority recognizes this fact and uses effectively, and most - prefers to dress in the clothes of an affected Hypocrites, attributing his good actions allegedly good intentions. Ha-ha-ha! I propose to put our new knowledge on gender relations. Especially in the discussions about the article " What is love? "I promised to consider the theme of selfishness in love, remember? What is selfishness in love? As we know, selfishness - it's not such a terrible beast, as he is often draws our imagination. How is this very selfishness manifested in love? To start reasoning recall what we mean by love : a state of repression of its own self-interest in favor of the selfishness of another person.

Add here the definition of self-interest - an interest in themselves, focus on their desires and instincts, on your own world. What is the result? If self-interest of man - let's Men - ousted in favor of self-interest of another person - a woman, it means that the appeal of the "inner self, the ego," a woman becomes a man above his own. Conversely, male attractiveness "of the inner self, the ego "becomes higher self for a woman. This is based on their mutual interest in each other. Inner peace is replaced by the inner world of one another. The needs of women feed men selfishness, and vice versa. Perhaps it is this understanding guided romance-writers-poets, when using metaphors like "they dissolve in each other." The surrounding of such people - they love each other and ideally suited to each other! Although if you ask each individual, the man most likely say something like "we are one with her blood," and a woman - "he's just like me, only ... with a tail." In other words, the assessment is done on a partner's absence! It's like the air - as long as he is, he did not notice how just is not - help! Imagine the situation. The man has a relationship with a woman and values ​​them. She offers to take off one day a weekend out of town. A man on the weekend already has plans - to go to the football. Or he has a woman to get to the theater, and she had already "scored" in the schedule for Saturday 'pools, massages, make-ups. " What to do? There are two options. First - if the man in the first situation, and the second woman give up their plans, needs, thereby getting in the way of accumulation potential irritation and dissatisfaction: just "moved", the second time lost ... Where is the end? And what will it be? Second option: each partner respects the selfishness of others, and considers - selfish! - The proposal received through the lens of their needs: nature or football, theater or swimming pool. If accepted, the agreed upon time, a venue which, as you know, now you can not change. That's it! Tell me, what is best for the relationship - the accumulation of annoyances like "you again to me with the theater," or respect for selfish needs? That's right! What is love or selfishness bed? Women believe that love selfishness manifests the one who ignores the passion in your partner desires, absorbed only its own satisfaction. Men, however, believe that the love selfishness manifests the one who manipulates partner, playing on the availability of physiological needs. In fact, neither one nor the other to selfishness has nothing to do! It reflects not sincere, naked self-interest, and feigned holiness and sacrifice. Read without much emotion the words of one woman's magazine: "Love selfishness in bed has a number of characteristic features. Your partner will not look at your face. Perhaps, closes his eyes, giving himself completely to his sensual pleasure. It will tell you what side to turn and how to move. " With the selfish point of view - do the same and do not worry! Catch the buzz! And from the point of view of sacrifice it is not so easy: I gave myself to him, and he ... As stated above, this is the path to the accumulation of anger and frustration. Selfishness, and only he - the basis of sustainable relationships between people and lovers!