From what men should hang about away from?

What men do not contact? can make a whole encyclopedia. Here and alcoholics and drug addicts, and parasites, and mama's boys and gigolos and spenders, and goons, and simply irresponsible types that are quickly and completely slip away at the first sign of difficulty. Of course, these can be seen almost immediately - if a man does not know how to have fun without alcohol, according to the change on the first date or not at all instead of a restaurant is a walk in the park - do not even try to give him a second chance. But sometimes in our life's journey meets a man without all of the above-mentioned drawbacks, with good work, alert and have the values ​​that are so movingly described in the "Domostroi" - authoritative, strength, ability to solve problems. On such shamelessly nostalgic many modern women, saying that "for him - like a stone wall."

But often it happens that just such a man is thus, from which first need to run away - to not soon join the ranks of clients therapist. So, what signs you should pay attention before you get lost in the sticky web of psychological violence, which will ruin your life, color and self-esteem? He always knows what's best for you - whether it's the color of lipstick, place of work or worship. At first, it's easy to excellence looks like a touching concern and even charms - until one day you do not understand that instead of your favorite TV shows you watch Adventure, instead of books, Anna Gavalda read "The Last Revenge Crazy", and instead of trekking to the disco singing in the church choir. The man immediately trying to change you. Should not deceive ourselves, even if you have a rather bad habits appeared useful - to run in the mornings and to drag the iron in the gym, eating sprouted grains. If all that you are doing - is wrong , then from a guy urgently needs to run. After all, quit smoking and start exercise is possible without the active intervention of his, right? Criticizes your appearance, way of thinking, way of expressing, culinary preferences, and so on. Ask yourself the question: if it does not suit your weight, love, creativity Dima Bilan, ignorance of basic spelling or doctoral degree in philosophy - what he is doing with you? Let the rolls where it will arrange everything, and does not waste your precious time. Ignores or makes fun of your desires and preferences. No comments yet. Devalues ​​your undoubted merits and achievements. Beautiful? The merit of the parents. Smart? And what brought you your mind? Made a career? So it's because you have influential relatives. Trying to limit your social circle. This can be either a direct criticism of your friends and relatives , or by such behavior, after which you would not want it any more inviting in the company of friends. In any case, nothing good about it. Hints or explicitly says that because you're a woman, you should already have - to make breakfast, wash the dishes, clean the invisible throw crumbs, try immediately to iron his shirt, pants, socks and so on. "Know your place" - meaning it is in translation, and this is the place - at the feet of men. Says, "I was sure you were different ..." - this phrase is usually uttered in response to your complaint and attempt to defend the independence. Often repeats: "You're so clumsy / inconsiderate / sloppy," "Here you always so - a pretty haphazard," "You're always doing everything wrong," "What could you possibly ..." Of course, in the first three dating it might look friendly jokes ... As long as you do not start to doubt in itself. And there close to the next point. "Who are you need" - as if a person's worth is determined by its usefulness as a thing. There is no alarm bell, but a real siren, which should be a signal for you to cut and run. Otherwise, you really believe that your destiny - it is the man who does not appreciate you, and, moreover, is trying to assert themselves at your expense. Unfortunately, our reality is that women with childhood taught that a man should be smarter, stronger, breadwinner and protector - while forgetting that a stone wall can be suffocating in jail! Just wanted to say, dear ladies, be careful and do not let the stereotypical myths about the "real man" you destroy. Defend our borders, despite the fact that the man has been steadily trying to have "bend" and do it your way, take care of their unique and inimitable personality - no relationship is not worth it to lose yourself.