Is it possible to bring back the romance in a relationship?

Who can say what is love? Oh! Find thousands of definitions and all of them will be true. But do we think that love can be different? Passionate, tender, home ... That it can evolve and grow and grow with us? After all, we are not standing still. I was wondering, is it possible to bring back those same feelings - and the euphoria of flight alone anticipation of visits from loved ones? And asked to reflect on this topic a few dozen pairs by asking them a question: "Is it possible to bring back the romance in a relationship?" The majority of respondents - young couples living together. After receiving the questionnaire, I was struck by how rational and realistic were the views of young people - as if I had received responses from couples who have lived together many happy years and have raised a lot of children and grandchildren. But first things first! Her opinion "Actually, 30-year-old man can not change! Only if it is absolutely tryaposhnymi, who only need this?" .

Oddly enough, the girls put up with the fact that the romance in the relationship does not return. But that does not mean that the love is gone! Passion - yes, there was a decline, but the love is still there: she, like energy, has moved into a different form - care for each other. You know, that amazing? No girl wrote that she longs for the old days, not one has written that "educates" her man. No, the girls take the favorite for what they are and look for compromises in everyday issues. Is not this what it is - true love? To my surprise there was not a word of complaint on their pious. That's really weird, but what about "all men - its a ..."? My belief in stereotypes was broken once and for all. What do you imagine when the word “wife "? A sort of aunt in curlers and with a rolling pin? And here and there! Now, before my mind's eye - an elegant woman, a tower of strength for her husband, a faithful companion, a friend and adviser. Yes, the romances of the first meetings do not return, but it is not needed, and even inappropriate. Those relationships that was at the beginning, and those that exist now - two very different stages in the life of two people, and try to make them the same, at least, stupid. Of course, sometimes you want a loved one more attention, communication, and support - all of which are not expressed in flowers and compliments, and help around the house, in a joint education of the child and the notorious joint selection of wallpaper for repairs in the room. The development of relations occurs when the two do not look at each other, and in the same direction, towards a common goal and support each other. And what to do if something is annoying in a partner? Well, for example, he throws socks or leave a dirty plate on the table right? Maybe try to do it? Again, there is no "Change something in the near-always seems easier than to change their own attitudes to it." To talk, to discuss areas of difficulty, and, most importantly, talk about their feelings: "He can, and will pretend not to care, but are wound on a mustache!" Our heroine is working tirelessly, coming up with joint exercises, praise favorite for success and do not forget about the little feminine wiles. "You have to appreciate what you have, and enjoy the moments" we are together! " His opinion Men - is insensitive chumps for the most part, is not it? And it does not realize they have - the girls, right? I thought so too, until I read the responses to the questionnaire. But then again, re-read - it is unbelievable how similar the thoughts of the people who truly love each other and cherish their relationship. And why do these guys do not talk about their love to the ladies? Yes, because they are - severe earners, it is not proper to plant all these pink snot: "Everyone knows that there are several stages in the development of relations: candy buketny, love and friendly. Girls always remember only the first stage and want to keep it forever. Well, that's OK - because from childhood they read stories about princes on white horses . Only in books do not write that smells of horses, princes wear dirty socks, they come in drunk or upset that no one was killed today! " In fact, men have come to the same conclusions as the girls: the romance did not return, and do not need a relationship to maintain stability and to become family to each other people. Do not try to artificially bring a partner to the passionate impulses - it will only spoil what has been built over the years. Flexibility and patience - a recipe for success brought men. Many phone helps - set a reminder for each month: "A compliment the flowers and just" - let on schedule, but the favorite will not notice, but the act of attention appreciate very much! Again, the coincidence: "First of all, we must work on ourselves" - that's how we influence each other, two people in a pair of independently come to the same conclusion! There is no limit to perfection, and you always want to change something, because really, why not start with yourself? But I repeat, I'm sorry! As for how I always thought hated the male sex talks about feelings, and here men were surprised: "I advise you to absolutely everyone at least once a year to talk to his half on the topic" Who does not like and how to solve the problem ", while putting emphasis on "once a year"! Otherwise, do not avoid quarrels! " Bring back the romance in a relationship is not possible, but that does not mean that they can not revive - and again men stand in solidarity with the girls: "I do not need to turn love into by to vuhu, you need to be attentive to each other." I really was amazing and extremely pleased that our heroes are not found themselves on different sides of the barricades that both sides seek to develop their relationship and believe in the sincerity of feeling that grows, develops, and even aging along with them. Maybe I just got lucky and all the couples with whom I had a chance to talk - entirely lucky with no problems and adversity? I doubt it ... That's when they do not let things take their course, and make an effort to be happy, to put on a brick in the house, which can safely be called a family.